Motherhood08 Jul 2018, Posted by Weekly Encouragement in
Written by Marla Black
Two months ago, our son, daughter-in-law and two grandchildren made the huge decision to move from Pennsylvania to Bakersfield, California. Anna, our daughter-in-law, and the two boys ages 2 ½ and 7 month old moved in with Larry & I while Justin stayed in Pennsylvania to sell their home and transfer his work to California. This was such a quick transition for all of us filled with excitement and faith. This move is a fulfillment of a prophetic word given to Larry & I 8 years ago. God is so faithful.
I said all that to say that for me, I was quickly thrown into the world of a family of a Mom with two little children and all the responsibility that comes with raising a family. How quickly did I forget all those days where my life revolved around my children’s every need and mine was put on hold. I also began to see the world differently through the eyes of a young mother. I found myself examining our church to see if our nursery was adequate and the best for my grandchildren and young mothers. Our home became baby-proofed filled with toys and we purchased items to make life more convenient. How about my time? My time was not my own. I was learning to be quiet in my own house while children were napping. Napping while they were napping so I would have enough energy for the remainder of the day. Setting some boundaries and priorities for myself became important. I wanted to offer my assistance with the children, yet, I needed to fulfill my church responsibilities. My prayer and devotional time was changed. I found myself quickly reading a verse on my phone and praying throughout the day while traveling here and there. While all this is taking place, I realized I was discovering the love of being a Mother all over again. Such compassion began to be re-kindled in my heart to see young moms encouraged, discipled and honored. As I am writing this, my eyes fill up with tears because of how we may at times put more value on ministry within the church and not value those who everyday are ministering to their family.
What has this experience taught me?
- Honor Mothers.
- Honoring Moms is not a once a year celebration on Mother’s Day. Moms need to know their value and be encouraged for raising the next generation. I am a firm believer that our country and church will be only as strong as our families. God is a lover of family. We were created in His family and this is how he re-populates and causes generational legacy.
- Moms come in different styles and each carry a burden.
- Stay at home Moms sometimes are looked upon and asked “why are you staying at home?” and feel the pressure to work outside the home. Those who can afford to remain at home with their children are not less than and should be valued for their choice.
- Working Moms feel the guilt of not being there for their children at every moment. They need our prayers and support, not condemnation.
- Unmarried or Divorced Moms have the responsibility of everything which can give them a sense of hopelessness and discouragement. They need to be encouraged. Families of the church can be a great source of encouragement with their time and resources.
- Stepmoms have inherited a new family. They can be the one to heal or break a home. Acceptance and grace is a key for their success in creating a blended family.
- Grandparent Moms didn’t ask for this responsibility. Life simply happened. Because the love of their children and grandchildren, they gladly took the responsibility. They need prayers for strength and financial provision.
- Spiritual Moms desire for their wisdom and insight to be valued and requested. Their heart is for others to grow and learn from their mistakes as well as successes. Making a difference in our world becomes their focus with the emphasis on leaving a legacy for others to follow.
- Our life is not our own.
- When God calls us to obey Him, it comes in various forms. Raising our children is an unselfish task. We may not be able to do some of things we used to do, such as get our nails done or meet up with the girls every week. Life changes and we should adapt to the changes.
- Our spaces or homes are not ours. It all belongs to God.
- Our homes are not to be a model home, they are to be lived in with realistic living spaces. Trust me, I love to decorate and have a beautiful home. However, God tests us to see if we really have given everything to Him. Our home is not to become an idol. When milk gets spilt or a glass broke in the kitchen, it’s not the end of the world. Those items can be replaced, but your reaction to the moment can make a lastling imprint upon a child’s heart.
- Time management is our friend. It’s time to prioritize.
- Every season seems to have different priorities. Understand your season and embrace it with making decisions according to what’s important.
- Our relationship with God.
- God is not a mean God. He is good. He desires to walk with us through the dirty diapers and dishes. He is only a breath away. He’s a good Father that wants to walk with us and speak to us. He doesn’t keep count of how long we prayed, how long read our bible or whether it was in the morning or evening. Religion keeps us in bondage as to when, where and how we walk with God. This is a time to be creative in how we develop our relationship with God. Cell phones are amazing that give us the opportunity for us to listen to worship music, sermons and look up scriptures.
- Talk with Jesus throughout the day. Ask Him to guide and lead you with your everyday decisions.
- Thank God for your life. Remaining thankful is a key to your happiness.
In closing, I honor the role of the Mother. You are valuable and this season will pass when all you will have is memories. Make the memories count now with no regrets. You are molding the next generation and we need you to be free from guilt and condemnation. My prayer is for God to strengthen and encourage you in your ministry to your children. You are amazing!!
Scriptures to meditate on:
Proverbs 31:27 & 28: She watches over the ways of her household, and does not eat the bread of idleness. Her children rise up and call her blessed.
Colossians 3:15: And let the peace of God rule in your hearts, to which also you were called in one body; and be thankful.
II Timothy 1:5: When I call to remembrance the genuine faith that is in you, which dwelt first in your grandmother Lois and your mother Eunice, and I am persuaded is in you also.