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Moving Forward

15 Jan 2015, Posted by admin in Weekly Encouragement

Written By Lynn Waters

At the end of each year I work at finishing the tasks that I wanted to do for that year. By December 2014 the tasks that I had put aside throughout the year had piled up.  Fortunately, the reasons for not doing them had passed, and I had the time to work on these time-consuming items. I did not finish them all, however I completed most of them.

 Now in a new year, I am looking over the goals for last year and previous years to see what goals I really want to accomplish and which ones are no longer relevant. After I review the goals I want to accomplish, I strategize as to how to reach these goals because we can achieve more when we plan.

We all have personal goals that we want to accomplish. Do we want to change occupations?  Do we need to go to school for this new occupation? If so, research schools and programs and then register for school. It may seem daunting at first, but sometimes the hardest part is simply beginning the process. The time will go by in your life whether you accomplish your goal or not.  So if you start working on your goal today, you will have improved an area of your life and you will immediately feel good about this progress.

 When I was younger, I did not know anything about goals and I just lived my life.  As I look back I see places where IGoal signboard could have improved and changed my life if I had made goals, gone to school, or changed how I lived my life. I know I cannot change my past, but I can change my future.  I now make plans and work at accomplishing them. What are some of my plans?  Well, first of all I want my home to be a peaceful place: a place filled with love and joy. I want consistency; to plan the meals to be nutritious and fun; and to make foods that my husband enjoys. Other goals are to make the home clean and comfortable. I also do the yard work. I plan to keep the yard in good order and watered so the flowers and plants look good. A few other goals are to read my Bible every day and pray for those that are experiencing trials, and to keep up on the emails I receive about what is spiritually going on in the world. I also want to make my husband happy, have fun, and go somewhere at least once a month to enjoy the world.

This year I am planning to go to a Family Reunion. I have never been and last year my sister and I reconnected with my Dad’s family. There were seven children and they all had many children and now grand-children and great grand-children.  All my Dad’s brothers and sisters are gone, but their children and grandchildren are waiting to meet my sister and me. I am planning and getting information so that I will be ready for all of the activities and to remember everyone, if possible.  Now that is an exciting goal for me this year. I have many more goals, but I think you get the idea of what kind of goals you can have.  When setting goals let’s remember to spend time with our families.  Children grow up before you know it and move into their own lives. And they remember the time we spend with them. At Thanksgiving I visited with my nephew and his wife, and he reminisced about his middle school graduation. We did something special together, just the two of us.  I had to financially go out on a limb but I felt it was worth it to make it a special day for him.  I felt so good that he remembered it. We have so little time on earth, we should spend some of this time giving of ourselves and doing things we enjoy like visiting others.  When I was small, my next door neighbor was always having people over for coffee just to chat. It is easy to forget about the joy of simply spending time with others.

 Life Builder Seminars offers this joy. We go there; we meet new people and talk with old friends. It is a place to connect, and renew ourselves. I hope to meet you at the next Life Builder Seminar in Brea on Saturday January 24th

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Beauty in a Bag

08 Jan 2015, Posted by admin in Weekly Encouragement

Written By: Yvonne Galindo

As I was surfing through Twitter I came across a promotion for a website called “Beauty in the Bag” how about “Passport to Beauty”; secrets from throughout the world that women use for looking and feeling beautiful. Both these sights are associated with beauty necessities for a woman. It seems these days you can find what you need to feel beautiful by surfing the internet and YouTube. I should know, I myself learned a few beauty tips from YouTube. A friend and I were discussing handbags, I indicated to her the title of my next Blog; she then commented by saying “A purse can be such a Burden”. Now let’s think about this ??? A burden can be the amount of cargo that a vessel can carry. It can be if you look at most common items found in a woman’s purse. They are makeup, keys, wallet, cell phone, breath mints, gum and items needed for personal hygiene.

 Most recently women began to carry items for self-defense; such as  a knife, pepper spray, Taser/stun gun, not to mention women purchase larger bags to make room for an iPad or a light weight laptops. A burden can also be something that is emotionally difficult to bear, or a source of great worry like stress.  If you’re feeling burdened by what you carry like maybe a heavy burden of guilt, shame, unworthiness, then ladies I suggest it’s time to do some purging. Honestly, I don’t carry much in by bag; maybe wallet, keys, sunglasses, reading glasses and phone.  That’s it! NO MAKE-UP in my purse, tooo messy.

 I began to think about the importance of beauty within and not so much what’s in the bag. You can’t see what’s in the bag, right! Young woman with shopping walking up stairs So I ask myself, do I need what’s in my bag to feel beautiful? NO! The beauty lies not in the content of bag; but in the content of our character, your intent and your desires.  1 Peter 3:3-4 Do not let your adorning be external—the braiding of hair and the putting on of gold jewelry, or the clothing you wear— but let your adorning be the hidden person of the heart with the imperishable beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which in God’s sight is very precious. I am not saying don’t wear make-up; of course not. I love the bling!  I am just saying don’t be affected by our culture today where people become shallow and our only focus is on the external.  This can be a dangerous to your soul. Let’s not forget what brought Satan down; Ezekiel 28:17 “Your heart was lifted up because of your beauty; you corrupted your wisdom by reason of your splendor. I found that no matter how plain a woman you are or what designer bag you carry, if truth and honesty are written across your face, you will be beautiful.

 If you recall in the movie “The Devil Wears Prada” Meryl Streep wore designer purses, clothes shoes and jewelry. She personified everything beautiful, yet was the epitome of rudeness.  She hid her unmet needs and unhealed hurts behind her designer lifestyle. I can relate so very well. I catch myself hiding at times even now, not wanting people to know what I am thinking or who I really am. I have come to realize I am getting in the way of me! I am a work in progress. Always growing, learning and finding new things in Christ. Realizing that people and things don’t define who I am.

 I can understand women today have so many expectations placed on them that it’s difficult for them to discern if they are successful in what they want or do in life.  Women are on overload most of time and it shows.  Don’t over think!  Everything in life is a process. Your load should, and can be light. Matthew 11:28-30 “Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. A woman should carry herself however she feels comfortable and happy. It’s about Growing into Grace. God created you in His Image. Don’t get caught up in the world’s image or people’s opinions.  Allow God to purge you, and you shall be clean; let him cleanse you, and you shall be whiter than snow. I know He can- He’s done it for me.

For more from Yvonne Galindo please visit: http://www.godspearl.com/

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The Faith of a Child

18 Dec 2014, Posted by admin in Weekly Encouragement

Trustfulness is a child’s nature

Written By: Judy Smith

Matthew 18:2-3 And Jesus called a little child to Him, and set him in the midst of them, and said, “verily I say to you, except you be converted and become as little children, you shall not enter into the Kingdom of Heaven.”

What are the characteristics of a little child, and how does she live? A little child lives by faith and her chief characteristic is freedom from care. A little child trusts their parents, their caretakers, their teachers, and even people who are unworthy of trust. Trustfulness is a child’s nature. Everything is provided for the child. She lives in the present moment and receives her life without questions as it comes from the parents. The baby does not toil, yet she is fed, and clothed, and loved.

This is the life of faith that Jesus taught: being a child in the Father’s house which transforms every weary burdened life into one of blessedness and rest. 1 Peter 1:13 Set your hope fully on the grace to be given you when Jesus Christ is revealed.

Our hope in the flesh is the hope of a pot of gold at the end of a rainbow. Biblical hope as a child of God is not wishful thinking. It looks forward to the fulfillment of the promises of God. We were built for an eternal Kingdom of peace and perfection.

As a child of God, we know who He is. He is our rock. As a child of God, trained Mother holding a hand of her sonin biblical hope, we apply His promises to the current situations. Don’t let hopelessness influence your life. It’s a lie of the enemy, and it will paralyze you. We hope in our God because He tells the truth and His promises are certain.

Mathew 18:14 NRSV So it is not the will of your Father in heaven that one of these little ones should be lost.

When we see our children stray we envy others as they share about how successful their children are, how their children are serving the Lord; and we wonder “how have I failed as a parent?” We often get down on ourselves. But then we must remember the promise of God: that if we train up a child in the way they should go then when they are old, they shall not depart from it.

I know this is true. Two of my children had fallen away, but I clung to His promise and they are now serving the Lord. We all struggle. We fall down and He picks us up. God is not only my Father, but He is my children’s Father too.

This is what Jesus says to us: “Rest in Me, My child, forgetting about the worries of the world. Focus on Me- Emmanuel- and let My living Presence envelop you in peace. Tune into My eternal security, for I am the same, yesterday, today, and forever. If you live on the surface of life by focusing on ever-changing circumstances, you will find yourself echoing the words of Solomon, “Meaningless! Meaningless! Everything is meaningless!” As My child, let Me live through you. Cooperating with Me is the way to instill meaning into your days. Begin each day alone with Me. As you spend time with Me, the way before you opens up step by step. Rise up from this time with Me and begin a new journey with Me through your day. Hold My hand in complete dependence on Me, and I will smooth out the path before you.”

O Lord Jesus, my Emmanuel. You are God with me, the hope of Glory! I depend completely on You and You alone. I come alongside of You and put my hand in Yours, and trust You to walk me through my days. As a child depends on its parents so I come to you, depending completely on You. The hope of Glory. You are my healer, You are my provider, You are my peace, You are the joy of my life. Oh how I love you.

 

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No, I am NOT Thankful

04 Dec 2014, Posted by admin in Weekly Encouragement

Looking at things from another Perspective can make us more Thankful

I have been an office manager for several years at the same company and I could see that change was coming. So I prayed against it, and I was too scared to pray “Lord, Your will be done”, because I did not know what His will was. Although I suspected that it did not match my will. Instead of seeking His guidance, I prayed for exactly what I wanted, which was that I would be able to continue managing my same location. I told the Lord, “I really can’t handle a transition right now. I have been through this a few times over the years and a transition would simply snuff out my last bit of enthusiasm for this job.”

Lo and behold my boss tells me that they are not transferring me to another center. They are transferring me to two centers! Two centers which I have worked at in the past. Two centers that I do not like. “Ok, Lord we have a problem. Did you not hear my prayers? I specifically asked not to be transferred. Not only am I being transferred to one center that I don’t like, I’m being transferred to TWO centers that I don’t like! TWO! Lord, what is going on?” Within in my spirit I hear “Trust Me.”

Alright ladies, look: I love God, He has been faithful to me, and He has preserved me throughnot thankful some very dark times. Even so, trust is a real problem for me. So when He said trust Me, I was livid. I said, “Trust You? I trusted You when I prayed about this job, and You ignored me. This is transfer is counterproductive, and this does not make me want to trust You. This is the worst thing that could have happened aside from being fired!” I may seem dramatic but believe me this was exactly how I felt.

Then I hear, “What if there is someone there who needs Me? And I immediately shot back, “I don’t care, I don’t want to go!” (If I were, God, I would have struck me dead right then and there) At that moment my pride, selfishness, and immaturity became blatantly clear to me. I repented and decided I would do my best to trust God during the process. However I was still disappointed and distressed about the situation. Ultimately, I decided to suck it up and do my best during and after this transition. I received godly advice from a few friends and I began to pray. A few days later my boss says, “One of the locations is being remodeled soon and I don’t want you to have to go through that again. So for now we’ll just transfer you to one location.” Hallelujah, thank you Jesus, you heard my prayers!

I’m driving to work the next day and I said, “thank You Lord for hearing my prayers.” Then I started mulling over my life and said, “My life sucks.” To be perfectly honest with you, I say this to myself from time to time when life gets rough, but for the first time, I heard something back. “Why do you think your life sucks?” And it is hits me. I’m NOT thankful. Why am I not thankful for my life? Being in a pity party mood, I decided to answer the question. “Lord, my life sucks because my job sucks, my Mom died, I can’t seem to get certain relationships right, I’m not good at this, I’m not good at that.” I listed quite a few other things and then I realized all these things are circumstantial yet, I had allowed circumstances to steal my thankfulness.

Imagine giving your friend a sweater for her birthday and she exclaims, “thank you!” But then, “you know this is really not the color I would’ve chosen for myself, it’s a little long for my taste. Oh and is this Anne Klein?… Calvin Klein is really my favorite.” Can you imagine?! You might be tempted to snatch that sweater back. This is exactly how I was with God. “Lord, thank you for my life…. but my life sucks. My life did not turn out the way that it was supposed to. Yes, God, I’m so grateful for my life… but I really wish I was married, and that I didn’t have to work, and that I didn’t have any problems.”

Does that sound thankful to you? I was NOT thankful! But check out how GOOD God is. He did not condemn me for my ungrateful attitude. He changed my mindset. My Mom is dead. I miss her, I am still mourning, and my heart aches knowing that she will not be at my wedding or see my children or be there for any more holidays. When my Mom died, my world stopped. I wanted to stop. I don’t think anything can prepare you for the death of a loved one. Through all that God made sure that I was surrounded by people that prayed for me and my family during that time. It’s hard, but those prayers have been answered, and by His grace I am able to grieve. Yes, I wish my Mom was here. However it would be a mistake to be so consumed with her death that I refuse to appreciate those who are still here. I still have my Dad, my Grandma, my siblings, and many others.

As for the rest of my woes, well, they are circumstantial. Temporary situations. They may be difficult situations yet God is with me in every problem. I can give God my concerns and disappointments, and I can still be thankful. I do not understand how certain things could possibly be working for my good, but I can still be thankful. I choose to trust Him and be thankful.

 
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Inspire Each Other

13 Nov 2014, Posted by admin in Weekly Encouragement

Fun Quiz for Ladies

Written By: Remaliah Evans

QUIZ
1. Name the three richest people in the world
2. Name the last two winners of the Miss America contest
3. Name last person who won the Nobel Prize
4. Name the last three Academy Award winners for best actor
5. Name the last three World Series winners

How did you do? Not too good huh? Don’t worry, you will ace part two:goingcrazy

1. Name two teachers who helped you in school
2. Name three friends who have helped you through a difficult time
3. Name three people who have taught you something worthwhile
4. Think of a few people who have made you feel, appreciated and special
5. Think of three people you enjoy spending time with

Easier?

The Point: No one remembers the headliners of yesterday. Although these are highly accomplished people, the applause ends. Awards tarnish. Achievements are forgotten. The people that significantly impact our life are usually not the ones with the most achievements, the most money, or the most awards. They are the ones that care. Have we shown how much we care lately? Perhaps with a phone call, a lunch invitation, running an errand, or praying with someone. A small act of kindness can truly brighten someone’s day, and in turn, encourage that person to do the same for someone else. Hebrews 10:24 Let us consider how to inspire each other to greater love and to righteous deeds.

 
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Examples of great women who weren’t looking for Jesus…but were found by Him

Written By: Yvonne Galindo

When I began to write this blog, I thought about how shoes have always played a role in history and culture. Shoe design can indicate a person’s wealth and social position, as reflected in the quality of material or the complexity of workmanship used to make shoes. Many cultures and belief systems do not allow women to have a say in their circumstances. We are so fortunate and blessed to have the freedom to make choices through our journey in life.

The photo of the shoe in this blog shows a memorial of a shoe worn by un-known women who died during Shoethe Holocaust. These women had been violated, dehumanized, tortured and forced to walk to their death. The pain and heartache these women felt knowing that their dreams for the future had been shattered is unfathomable.

I began to think about the women in the bible and their shoes/sandals. These women were the un-notable women of the bible who struggled through their journey and walked a path that I could not fathom.

Let’s begin with Hagar who was a slave girl then a mistress. Hagar was rejected and disregarded. She was sent away to wander in the wilderness. Hagar was alone, full of hopelessness, and crying in the desert. Genesis 16:1-16 Imagine walking in her sandals; a single mom walking through the hot desert, feeling rejected, thirsty and abandoned.

Gomer is another example of a woman violated from her youth coming from a life of prostitution. She is dirty, broken by sin and the subject of slander and gossip. (Hosea 1:1-11)

One of my favorite stories is of the Samaritan woman, who probably was ostracized by other women in her village because of her checkered past. (John 4:1-27)

In these stories these women were walled by religion gender, race, and moral values.

So what do Hagar, Gomer and the Samaritan women have in common? Hagar, Gomer and the Samaritan are the champions of the hidden, the helpless, the betrayed and the needy. These women weren’t looking for Jesus; they were thirsty, feeling empty and all they wanted was water. Our God found them … and they found him.

God used Hosea to rescue Gomer from her life style; of course this was not an easy task. How many of us have had trouble letting go of past relationships or a lifestyle that we know is not the best choice.

Hagar went from bottled water to a well of water; God opened her eyes and she saw a well of water, and both she and her boy were saved from death. And finally the Samaritan women who encountered Jesus who I am quite sure in all her curiosity talked his ear off searching for truth and found it. I am sure we have all been there.

During my struggles with feeling emotional distress, wondering where the next meal would come from or where we would lay our heads for the night. I thought about my mother and realized these were the same struggles she went through raising our family. I did not want that life for my children and me. Like the Samaritan women, I sought men for provision. I realize now those relationships left my spirit wounded and blinded to Gods plan for my life. Christ provided a way out; He provided a spring of water for me- it was up to me to drink of it. All I needed was a sip, a small taste; Faith of a mustard seed and found He would turn my pain to passion; I now know my purpose. Yes! I have to say there are bumps along the road; Have I stumbled? Yes! However I have to say God smoothed out the path and I learned that no past sins can bar my acceptance with him. Not one! I stand grounded and find strength, comfort and encouragement with my Faith in Christ. I choose not to walk any other way.

 
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When You’re Still

30 Oct 2014, Posted by admin in Weekly Encouragement

What can God do when we slow things down?

Written by Kimmy Gutierrez

Ever notice when you’re still that you hear things that you normally wouldn’t hear? That you see things that you would not normally see in a busy day? Take a moment right now and silence the tv, put down your phone, lower your radio. (wait just 1 minute, okay 30 seconds)
Just close your eyes and listen…What did you hear?
I heard my water fountain outside, and a few birds passing by.
In today’s society it’s hard to have a moment of silence, little alone be still. Because if you’re anything like me my cell phone is constantly getting texts or notifications, and tweets etc. My house is always full of sounds. Let’s face it, it’s even hard now a days to have a conversation with someone because they are constantly doing something on their phones. (agree?)
Sometimes we wonder why we don’t see God in our situations, why we don’t hear God in our lives. Could it be that we are too busy? Too busy making things happen… and not being still?
The word still in the dictionary means the following:
1. remaining in place or at rest; motionless; stationary: to stand still.
2. free from sound or noise, as a place or persons; silent: to keep still about a matter.
3. subdued or low in sound; hushed: a still, small voice.
Think about it, when you are NOT still, you’re too busy to listen… when you are NOT still you are trying to do it on your own..staring_out_window
But when you ARE still you allow God to do His part, you allow God to take over.
Picture yourself still… are you laying on a couch? a lounge chair? are your arms limp? are your feet kicked up? No worries?
That is kind of how God wants us to be when he calls for us to be still. Still enough for Him to do what he needs to do. (Not being lazy, but just still) Waiting on the Lord. Listening to Him!
Psalm 27:14 Wait for the LORD; be strong and take heart and wait for the LORD.
Psalm 46:10 He says, “Be still, and know that I am God; I will be exalted among the nations, I will be exalted in the earth.”
It is when we are still that we know that He is God… when we allow Him to take on our cares, when we allow Him to go to battle for us and when we allow Him to heal us.
This blog is for me too, I can get really busy and though I try to be guided by him daily, there are situations I sometime just want to take care of right now.
But it’s when you know that He is saying “Be Still”, that’s when you need to just trust in him.
Philippians 1:6 says it best.. “being confident of this, that he who began a good work in you will carry it on to completion until the day of Christ Jesus.”
So today I encourage you to be still.
As a kid we were taught to Stop, Drop and Roll the fire out, today I challenge you to “Stop”, Listen, and Let God!” be still and be blessed!

 
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Bullying

23 Oct 2014, Posted by admin in Updates

How far can bullying go?

Written by Remaliah Evans

The effects of bullying reach far beyond school and the school years. Here are a few quick numbers:
·10% kids who drop out of school, drop out because of bullying1, thus severely limiting employment opportunities.
·Those bullied are four times more likely to experience anxiety, depression, panic attacks, and agoraphobia in adulthood than those who were not bullied2.
·40% of boys identified as bullies in between the sixth and ninth grades are arrested at least 3 times before the age of 301.
·Those (male and female) identified as bullies have an increased risk of developing antisocial personality disorder, a disorder in which a person has little empathy and does not mind manipulating others for their gain2.

Whether you are an adult or a youth, chances are that bullying has, or is impacting your life. The Good 1003363_10202043251917634_153637168510788065_nNews: there are resources, and this weekend Life Builder Brea is one of those resources. Be sure to attend Life Builder Brea this weekend and learn what bullying is, and what bullying is not. This special session will be taught by three women with expertise in diverse backgrounds: a pastor and counselor who resolves bullying within adult relationships, a campus safety officer who has diffused numerous bullying incidents for over 18 years, a school psychologist.

This Saturday’s seminar will cover how to recognize the true source of bullying. We know what bullying looks like; now it’s time to discover the root of the problem and then lay the ax to the root. We will also learn how to overcome the negative effects of bullying. As much as we would like to think that bullying ends in high school, unfortunately bullying can occur between adults, in college, and in the workplace.

Bullying is a term that we hear often and it is sometimes misused; therefore this Seminar will also clearly define bullying. You will leave this seminar equipped and empowered! Register for no fee event here

Sources:
1.http://www.nobullying.com
2.http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2013/02/20/long-term-effects-of-bullying_n_2728190.html

 
 
 

APPRECIATION MONTH

16 Oct 2014, Posted by admin in Uncategorized

What Better Time to Honor those who dedicate their lives to serve God?

Written By: Remaliah Evans

Did you know that October is Clergy Appreciation Month? Dictionary.com defines clergy as “the collective body of men and women ordained as religious ministers…” Clergy are the official ministers, pastors, prophets, teachers, apostles, prophets and leaders. What better time to honor these faithful people than Clergy Appreciation Month? As such, I would like to dedicate this blog to the ministers and leaders and say THANK YOU!

When I consider how ministers and leaders have impacted me, I am reminded of the phrase “It takes a village to raise a child.” I joined my church as a spiritual baby and over the years I have been amazed at the time, energy, resources that ministers and leaders pour into others. They have changed my life and helped me grow in my relationship with God. As a tribute to these beautiful people, here are three life lessons that they have taught me:

LOVE: I cannot tell you how many times I have called a minister or leader and they took the time to listen, pray,fashionable-woman-thinking encourage, and counsel me. Speaking the truth in love, they restored my hope (and oftentimes my sanity) in one conversation! They take time out for me and so many others even though they have very busy schedules. Then there is the fact that I can get a funky attitude at times. They do not condemn me; instead they help me uncover and cure the source of my bad attitude. It takes LOVE and patience to do that. They have taught me that love must be the motivation- loving God and loving people. “My command is this: Love each other as I have loved you.” John 15:12

CHARACTER: Some define character as what you do when no one is looking. I would venture to say that 90% – 95% of what ministers and leaders do is behind the scenes: hours of studying and praying, counseling, home and hospital visits, serving, etc. They live a lifestyle of serving with little recognition. Great ministers and leaders are not concerned with accolades and rewards; instead they choose to maintain integrity and serve people. “May integrity and uprightness protect me, because my hope, Lord, is in you.” Psalm 25:21

TEAMWORK: Ministers and leaders build teams because it takes teams to fulfill vision and purpose. Wise ministers and leaders do not try to do it all on their own. In fact, they enjoy imparting their experience, knowledge, and grace to others! We are better together. “But in fact God has placed the parts in the body, every one of them, just as he wanted them to be. If they were all one part, where would the body be? As it is, there are many parts, but one body.” 1 Corinthians 12:18-20. “Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their labor.” Ecclesiastes 4:9

 
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Loneliness

02 Oct 2014, Posted by admin in Weekly Encouragement

How to break cycles of loneliness and depression

Written by Yvonne Galindo

I wrote in my previous blog “Intimacy I” with regards to being a single Christian Women in the church today and your relationship with Christ. It’s no surprise that more and more people define themselves as being lonely. Some suffer from loneliness because of losing a spouse or child. In most cases it’s divorce; someone you have been intimate with for years of marriage and then one day the happiness you both have shared is gone! I believe we use the word lightly, and don’t realize loneliness can be a serious ailment for some. Loneliness will manifest itself in many forms like using drugs to try to cope with your depression which sometimes can lead to suicide. This truly saddens my heart because I experienced the loss of a loved one who truly suffered from loneliness and depression. It’s not that she wasn’t loved it’s staring_out_windowbecause she never loved herself or forgave herself for her past mistakes. Women not learning to love or forgive themselves are a number one cause of loneliness in the church.
Mother Teresa said it best ~ the most terrible poverty is loneliness, and the feeling of being unloved ~ anyone who has been divorced knows the feeling of inadequacy or feeling incomplete and unloved which sometimes can lead to unhealthy relationships. I myself have experienced feeling incomplete and unloved, because of those feelings I made some BIG mistakes, some that I have learned from and others I have regretted terribly. I needed to stop looking for someone and find myself in Christ. I needed to seek Greatness and find the good in myself by the renewal of my mind-Rom 12:2. It was a difficult process and I learned to place all my desires before God; to pray about them and trust God to give them to me if and when they’re right. Remember place all the good, bad and the ugly in His hands. There is no room for shame at the altar of God.
The story of your life has many chapters. One bad chapter doesn’t mean it’s the end of the book.

For more from Yvonne, visit her blog.

 
 
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