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Dreams

22 May 2014, Posted by admin in Uncategorized

How God can Restore Our Hopes and Dreams

I thank God for all that He is doing in my life and with my photography. God has taken my love for pictures and is transforming it into a business. Last night I contacted a friend to arrange a meeting and discuss the best way to start this business venture. I also emailed a friend to help me create the website. Well, when I got to work this morning I was in the zone, thanking Jesus for connecting me with people who are willing to help me with the logistics of starting a business. Then a coworker asks if everything is ok. I said yes and I told her that I was thinking about my new photography business. She said “girl you don’t even have income. You’re opening up a can of worms, and youyoung-woman-walking-on-path-in-city-park don’t know what to do.” My dream was momentarily crushed until I thought of the great God whom I serve. I don’t serve a God of little. I serve a God who is Limitless!

Dreams are best shared with those whom believe in you; people that believe in what God is doing in and through you. Do not allow your dreams and desires to be destroyed by discouraging words. Two fires united create a larger combustion. Therefore share your dreams with others who are also on fire with God’s Word. Jeremiah 23:29 “Is not my word like fire, “declares the Lord, “and like a hammer that breaks the rock in pieces.” These fiery people will speak the life of God’s word into your dreams; they will declare His promises over you and remind you that His purpose will prevail in your life. In such an environment the fire of your dreams will burn as they are fueled with the fire of God’s word.

“Now may the God Who gives the power of patient endurance (steadfastness) and Who supplies encouragement, grant you to live in such mutual harmony and such full sympathy with one another, in accord with Christ Jesus, That together you may [unanimously] with united hearts and one voice, praise and glorify the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ (the Messiah).” Romans 15:5, 6 AMP

Share your dreams with those God has united your heart with. Those people have the grace to patiently endure with you and encourage you through you the process because turning a dream into a reality takes work, discipline, and submission to the One who placed the dream in your heart. We need people who will encourage us when the dream is deferred or when God begins to refine our character. As I am just beginning my business I can see that God has surrounded me and united me with these types of people because He knows what I need. I am so grateful.

Written By: Angie Venegas

 
 
 

Priorities

15 May 2014, Posted by admin in Weekly Encouragement

See what the Bible says about Our Priorities

Where does the time go?! Time just flies by and it flies by even faster when it is unaccounted for. I was trying to figure why I have not been diligent in fulfilling my commitments, and the first thing that came to mind was “I don’t have time.” I reasoned that if I could just quit my job, that would free up 8-10 glorious hours a day, 12 hours if you count traffic. Then I started recounting the past week and I was little appalled when I discovered how much time I had wasted. When I could have been productive, I was watching movies for 4 hours, surfing the internet, etc.

The truth is that I have the same 24 hours a day as everyone else. Someone once said that we can SPEND time or we INVEST time. Thinking along those lines, I found that I was spending a lot of time on non-priorities such as online fashionable-woman-thinkingshopping and social media. And if I had planned better I could have skipped two trips to the store and bypassed an accumulated 3 hours of finding something to wear. My intent is not to fill every hour of every day and not rest or have fun, however I do want to be diligent in honoring my commitments and working toward my goals.

Steven Covey, the author of 7 Habits of Highly Successful People, states that “the key is not to prioritize what’s on your schedule, but to schedule your priorities.” I came across this quote and it dawned on me that I have been scheduling everything and in doing so, not making appropriate time for the things that I say are a priority. I felt liberated for a second there… until I realized that I couldn’t just clear my to-do list. Now I get to ask myself some important questions- what are my priorities? Am I overcommitted? How can I manage my time more effectively? I overanalyze so there’s about 30 more questions I’m asking myself but I won’t bore you with those. The point is, is that I am on the journey to learning how to schedule my priorities.

What cracks me up is that God has no problem reminding me of the same truth over and over again. At church last week the speaker taught John 15:5 “I am the vine; you are the branches. If you remain in me and I in you, you will bear much fruit; apart from me you can do nothing.” God reminded me that I cannot leave Him out of my prioritizing and planning. More importantly I am to remain connected to Him. When I remain connected to God I am connected to His wisdom, grace, discernment, love, and strength. And so here I am again, asking God to forgive me for not seeking Him first and asking Him to help me make loving Him my priority.

Written By Remaliah Evans
 
 
 

The Toaster

01 May 2014, Posted by admin in Uncategorized

God can Speak to you Anywhere

Now what’s the story of the toaster? Okay, you know how God can gives a message in anything right? Well I’m visual and he had someone tell me a story and it went like this:

A lady and her husband were fighting, the conversation got heated. Eventually they became more angry, after arguing for a while the husband left the house and she turned to the son who was in the house throughout the whole argument. She said, “Your dad, is a monster, I can’t stand him…blah blah blah. The son just standing there listening to his mom bash his dad to pieces, slowly turned to the kitchen counter and grabbed the toaster…the mother still ranting on and on about the dad, turned toward her son just when the toaster was in front of her face. Her son said, woman_faith_arms_up“Mom, Who’s the Monster?” In the toaster she saw her face, full of anger and ugliness! She was the Monster! Wow, is that how she looked when she was full of anger? How awful, she thought.

In a message I shared, I asked all the ladies to pass around a toaster and make the ugliest face that they thought represented themselves when they are angry. It was an eye opener for many.

James 4:11-12 Don’t speak evil against each other, dear brothers and sisters. If you criticize and judge each other, then you are criticizing and judging God’s law. But your job is to obey the law, not to judge whether it applies to you. God alone, who gave the law, is the Judge. He alone has the power to save or to destroy. So what right do you have to judge your neighbor?

Psalms 34:11-14 Come, my children, and listen to me, and I will teach you to fear the Lord. Does anyone want to live a life that is long and prosperous? Then keep your tongue from speaking evil and your lips from telling lies! Turn away from evil and do good. Search for peace, and work to maintain it.

I pray the next time you are about to argue or fight that your remember the “toaster”…be blessed as we learn to be more like Jesus..

Written by Kim Gutierrez. If you would like to reach Kim, you can contact her here.
 
 
 

Hard Times

24 Apr 2014, Posted by admin in Weekly Encouragement

Where is God during our toughest battles?

What happens in the hard times? Sometimes we face situations that are so hard we start to wonder if this is the end, are we really gonna make it? Will we ever live our dreams or the visions that God has given us? We can get so discouraged that we don’t want to hope any more, we don’t want to try anymore, we don’t want to have faith, we don’t want to work at it anymore because it’s just not working out.

What do I do when life is just too hard? Where is God when I am failing, depressed, when I lose a loved one, when I lose my job, when I lose my car, when I am so discouraged and depressed that I can’t even get out of bed? God is here, He is with me. When I go to Him and give Him my ashes, He gives me beauty and gratefulvictory.

During the hard times I can make a choice- a choice to believe God or believe someone else. To grow in my faith or let it dwindle a way. I can choose to take responsibility for my decisions or I can blame others. I can blame God or I can believe that God is sovereign and just and He loves me with and everlasting love. I can trust Him to redeem me, my reputation, and my time.

During the hard times I can pray or I can complain. I can seek advice from godly people or I can continue trying to do it all on my own. I can continue to grow in my relationship with God, asking Him for the
answers or I can try to figure it out myself.

During the hard times I can get into His presence, I can pray, I can read the word, I can worship, I can praise, and I can be still before God. I can ask Him for perspective or I can blow it all out of proportion. I can choose give thanks for what I have, or I dwell on what I don’t have. I can chose to only worry about me and what I need, or I can bless someone else.

During the hard times I can choose to persevere or give up. I can give my burdens to God or I can self-medicate myself by smoking, eating, having sex, distracting myself with a busy social life, or even pouring all of my energy into a hobby.

God loves me no matter what choice I make, however the choice I make can prevent me from understanding that God loves me. When I walk away from God, when I chose to sin, and when I chose other people or things over God, I become a prisoner of condemnation, guilt, shame, pride, self-righteousness, and self-reliance. I no longer hear God saying that He loves me; I can’t see all the ways that God says I love you.

Every battle, every problem, every circumstance, and every hard time is an opportunity to grow closer to God and to trust God. The hard times remind me that I need God in every area of my life. They remind me that God truly is all powerful and almighty. The hard times build endurance, strength, hope, faith, love, patience, discipline. The hard times remind me that to be humble, to show grace, to show mercy, to be compassionate and to pray others. During the hard times I am still more than a conqueror through Christ Jesus.

 
 

The Shattered Reflection

17 Apr 2014, Posted by admin in Weekly Encouragement

Powerful Story of How God can Work in Our Lives

It was a peaceful evening. I was reflecting back on my life before Christ. As pictures passed through my memory bank it seemed as if those memories of hurt, pain, rejection, fear and insecurity belonged to a neighbor or perhaps the stranger that I had met on the street somewhere. I would look at myself in the mirror and all I would see was a scared, unattractive young girl desiring to be loved. I looked deep into my childhood memory bank and realized where it had originated from. I am going to share a piece of my journey starting from my childhood.
My parents split when I was 5 years old. The morning of my father’s departure I felt abandoned and alone. I loved HIM very much. My mother, on the other hand, was there physically but not emotionally. She never knew how to love me, she never told me “I love you” verbally; she would only write it in a birthday card. So that set the course for my rebellion and search for love.

As I entered my early teens I went from relationship to relationship. Then anger and rage set in. At this point my mother was so desperately searching for her own love that her boyfriends came first. I was always asking myself “Why can’t anyone love me? Why am I not good enough? And staring_out_windowif I do this, will this boy love me?” Eventually my father got saved and I was introduced to Jesus Christ. I was so caught up in my own pain that I could not receive God’s love. I felt that I was unlovable and not worthy of anything. Then I met my husband and I felt a sense of security and that I finally found someone that could fill my emptiness. How wrong I was… At that point I entered Egypt and remained a slave to physical and emotional abuse for 13 years. I continued to spiral down until I found myself in depression. My self- image and self- esteem was on empty.

Till one day on a Saturday morning I called out to God…I was on my knees in the living room floor with tears pouring down my face like a river. I cried out “OK God… I am tired of doing things on my own…If you are real…then change me, change this situation that I am in. I can’t do this anymore. The power of God came rushing down that very second like a flood. I felt his love saturate me. As I got up from the living room floor a few hours later, I felt hope and life arise in me. I saw the world bright and promising. I knew that God had done something in me and that He was indeed real. Romans 10:13… those that call upon the name of the lord shall be saved

The Lord began to send me mentors and strong women of God to help me through the valley, and eventually I left Egypt. My long journey of inner healing began. My life began to transform AND my mindsets began to shift and break off. Romans 12:2 be transformed by the renewing of your mind. One day I woke up and went to wash my face, as I was standing there I looked in the mirror and I saw my beauty. I saw love, I saw compassion, I saw worthiness. I saw Jesus….My poor self-image had been shattered. This set a new course in my life. Though I am still on my road of healing and deliverance, I thank God I am no longer where I use to be. The day that I reached out to Christ, is the day I died. And today I am resurrected with Christ.

 

Written by Desiree Hernandez. If you’d like to reach Desiree, you can contact her here.
 
 

Mercy

10 Apr 2014, Posted by admin in Weekly Encouragement

Thank God for Mercy

 

Earlier today my friend sent me a picture of someone’s profile from Instagram. It said “God 1st” and then a whole bunch of other ungodly things followed. And before I could blink, I had already cast judgment. “That’s a hot mess”, “God first my behind”, and a few other things ran through my mind. And no sooner had I thought them I was convicted.

Who am I to judge her or anyone else? What makes my walk any better than hers? So I don’t drink, but I clearly am quick to judge. So I don’t go to bars and clubs, but I definitely listen to some ungodly music.

So I go to church every Sunday and Wednesday, but I check my phone at least three times a service. Mygrateful point to all this is that just like that girl, I am far from perfect. I fall short of who and what God wants me to be on daily basis. I think (and sometimes even say) mean things when I have to deal with traffic. I don’t pray or read my Bible how I should. Yet, God loves me anyway. He’s merciful anyway. He’s a God of grace anyway.

It’s so easy for us to know how OTHER Christians should behave, but we fail to focus on our own behaviors. NONE OF US WILL GET IT RIGHT. If we were able to live sinless, righteous lives, Jesus wouldn’t have had to endure the cross. BUT HE DID.

Don’t get me wrong, I don’t think this gives any of us the right to abuse God’s mercy and grace, and the salvation freely given to us. I don’t think we should walk around doing any and everything because we know God will love us anyway. 

We need to take a close look at ourselves. Recognize where we are and how we can get closer to where God wants us to be. Look at the condition of our heart and ask God to heal us if we carry bitterness and pain. And thank God for His mercy and grace. If we are going to cast stones, we need to cast them towards ourselves

Written by Amber Boggs. If you’d like to contact Amber, you can reach her here.
 
 

You are Not Alone

03 Apr 2014, Posted by admin in Weekly Encouragement

An Abundant Life of Fellowship

When we experience traumatic or difficult times we tend to believe that no one understands us or what we are going through. We keep our troubles and our struggles to our self and we believe that we are alone. Fortunately, we are not alone. Ecclesiastes 1:9 says that nothing is new under the sun. I think that means that no matter what I am going through, someone has had an identical or similar experience. Ecclesiastes 4:9-10 reminds us that two are better than one: Two are better than one, because they have a good reward for their labor. For if they fall, one will lift up his companion. But woe to him who is alone when he falls, for he has no one to help him up.

We were not designed to walk life out alone. The moment we believe we are alone is the very same moment that hope begins to fade, because we innately know that we are better together.lbs_frontimage1

Look at Elijah the prophet in 1 Kings 18 and 19. He had just called down fire from heaven, converted an entire city into believing in God again, and his prayers ended a three year drought. But when Jezebel vowed to kill him he instantly believed that he was the last-standing prophet. Elijah was not the sole prophet and he was not the only prophet fearing for his life. He had recently met Obadiah and Obadiah told Elijah that he had hidden and fed 100 prophets to protect them from Jezebel. Yet in the midst of the trauma and fear Elijah convinced himself that he was alone. Twice he tells God “I, even I only, am left,” and he asks God to end his life. God reminded Elijah that there were 7,000 people that had not worshipped Baal. God reminded Elijah that he was not alone and instructed him to go anoint Elisha. Elisha remained with Elijah until the very end and Elisha faithfully assisted him even when Elijah tried to get rid of him. Elijah was never alone again.

When I start to feel that I am alone I get dramatic, self-pity sets in, and hope dissipates. Recently, I was freaking out and on the verge of a breakdown because I realized I was not good at maintaining relationships or expressing love. This little epiphany snowballed into: “how can I call myself a Christian if I can’t love? No wonder I’m not good at sales, I will never be a good minister because I’m clearly not a people person, I’m going to be horrible wife, I won’t be able to make a difference, no wonder no one understands me, why can’t I be like sister sunshine.” For two weeks straight these poisonous thoughts plagued me. Guess what? There was no one to encourage me because I refused to confide in anyone. I had convinced myself that I was the only person with this problem and that no one would understand. God could not encourage me because I was too busy trying to convince Him to choose someone else.

Then, by the grace of God, a friend of mine was vulnerable with me regarding her personal goals. Because she was transparent, when she asked how I was doing I decided not to give the standard “busy” or “good.” I told her that I was freaking out because I was horrible at maintaining relationships. To my surprise she shared that she and few friends had been talking about wanting to build stronger relationships. Then she offered to help me improve my relationship building skills. Suddenly the burden was lifted because I knew that I was not the only one struggling in this area and I had help. Immediately light rays of hope dispelled the darkness of doubt and loneliness.

As the young people say “the struggle is real.” But you can overcome the struggle faster with God, and with the people He has placed in your life. You are not alone.
 
Written by Remaliah Evans. If you would like to reach out to Remaliah, you can contact her here.
 
 

Loving Our Enemies

27 Mar 2014, Posted by admin in Weekly Encouragement

How to live Free

You can be the nicest person on the face of the planet and there will still be someone who hates you, is jealous of you, or just wants to see you suffer. It’s happened since the beginning of time, and it will be this way until the end of time. (Sorry if that sounds grim). But the fact of the matter is, Jesus was (and still is) pretty darn amazing! He taught love, encouraged peace, spoke life, healed folks. I mean, come on, what more could you ask for! AND LOOK WHAT HAPPENED TO HIM! Despite all His goodness, He ended up on the cross because he had enemies. People hated Him, hated what He represented, and hated the message He spread. Their hate for Him is why He was crucified. Did you catch that I said, THEIR hate for Him, not the other way around?woman praying silhoutte
Jesus wasn’t crucified because of how he felt toward His enemies. He wasn’t crucified because He was trying to inflict pain and suffering upon anyone. He was crucified because hate was deeply rooted in the hearts of His enemies, and they wanted nothing more than to see Him dead.

Fast forward to present day. On our best days we are nothing like Jesus, yet we still have enemies. Saved or unsaved, Christian or Buddhist, white, black, or purple, WE HAVE ENEMIES. So how do we deal with them? 

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PRAY FOR THEM! That’s right, I said it. Pray for your enemies! When people speak curses over you, SPEAK BLESSINGS! (Bless those who curse you, pray for those who mistreat you. Luke 6:28 NIV)
When the are hateful towards you, WALK IN LOVE! (And live a life of love, just as Christ loved us and gave himself up for us as a fragrant offering and sacrifice to God. Ephesians 5:2 NIV) When people persecute you, PRAY GOD IS MERCIFUL ON THEM! I could go on and on, but I’m sure you get the point. When we allow ourselves to be consumed with hate, we become hostages. We’re prisoners of hate because we become so focused on our enemies that little else is of importance. We want to know what they’re doing so we can do it better. Where they’re going so we can go someone better. Who they’re friend are so we can make sure our friends are better. That’s not living!

 As crazy as it sounds, there really are benefits to praying for our enemies. Try it and watch how quickly you become set free!

Written by Amber Boggs. If you would like to contact Amber, you can reach her here.
 
 

Marriage and Respect

20 Mar 2014, Posted by admin in Weekly Encouragement

This month marks 5 years of marriage for me and my Mr.  So when I was give then opportunity to write about marriage and having God in our marriage, my Spirit  just leaped.  I knew this was God sent.

What God impressed on me to share is on RESPECT I will now give a disclaimer before I go any further: I have NOT mastered this area, so allow me to be candid.  I will be honest about certain struggles. It is not an easy thing to open up.

I have to admit I am guilty of only sharing our positive, happy, smiley photos and stories on social media.  Not so much to paint a picture perfect marriage but I don’t like to do rant posts or share my dirty laundry. However I am going to step out in faith and be transparent for the purpose of offering hope to hurting wives and to help bring THE LIGHT to struggling marriages.
Now let me say that what I do share on my social media is the truth and as real as can be however there are certain times when it’s not all pretty, all the time. I am really hoping this is normal. Most times are all smiles with Mr. Aguila.  He is a truly amazing, God sent husband.  He is so patient, so loving and so thoughtful quite the opposite of me.

So moving along and on to RESPECT which means to esteem; the state of being admired; thoughtfulness. Ephesians 5:31-33 instructs us and is titled in the New Living Translation version, Spirit-Guided Relationships: Wives and Husbands As the Scriptures say, “A man leaves his father and mother and is joined to his wife, and the two are united into one.” This is a great mystery, but it is an illustration of the way Christ and the church are one. So again I say, each man must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.

While doing my research I found the word deference as a synonym for respect. Deference means respect:  polite respect; especially putting ANOTHER person’s interest FIRST.

We must follow Philippians 2:309-woman-talking-when-man-isnt-listening-1

I like this version. Philippians 2:3 The Voice  Don’t let selfishness and prideful agendas take over. Embrace true humility, and lift your heads to extend love to others.

And this one..Philippians 2:3 New King James Version (NKJV) 3Let nothing be done through selfish ambition or conceit, but in lowliness of mind let each esteem others better than himself.
We are now one with our spouses.  We are not better than them or deserve more or entitled to more we actually should honor and respect each other ABOVE ourselves.
Romans 12:10 instructs us in the New International Version (NIV)  Be devoted to one another in love. Honor one another above yourselves. These two scriptures are speaking against selfishness and showing us not to be self-seeking.  It is not all about us.  We did not get married to put the pressure on our spouses to make us and keep us happy.  We must always allow God to be our joy and happiness.  “The Joy of the Lord to be our strength.”  The bible does not say the joy that comes from my spouse.  God must take center stage in our marriages.

If we can love with that First Corinthians 13 kind of love than respect will begin to show up and show off but many of us wives know that it is not always easy, easy to be patient, or meek or kind or selfless.  I know for me it’s not and there are times when I am not patient and if I miss one then I miss them all because when I am not selfless I am not patient and I am not kind and I am not meek.  I get frustrated and start being disrespectful and yelling at my husband all because I didn’t get what I wanted.  Our bickering is over the smallest dumbest things but if Mrs. Aguila doesn’t get what she want, everyone will know.  Lately Mr. Aguila has been bringing my crazy outburst to my attention and lets not talk about all the rolling of the eyes, the sighs and the whatevers I throw in from time to time. That is all disrespectful.

We must see respect as a noun plus a verb.  Respect is not just something we know, it has to be something we show.  It requires action on our part.  A daily decision to put into action that First Corinthian Chapter Thirteen love which will pull out that respect we are instructed to have for our husbands.

Maybe you feel your husband doesn’t deserve your respect or that you don’t have to submit to him.  If you feel that way then try being obedient to the word of God, submitting to one another out of reverence for Christ as Ephesians 5:21 tells us.  Most times I feel as if I don’t deserve my husband’s love to be honest.  This is one of my struggles and being open and transparent before God and being accountable is a great start for change.

Matthew 6:33 in the New Living Translation says, “Seek the kingdom of God above ALL else, and live righteously, and he will give you everything you need.”  I do believe that this is not only material stuff but it includes wisdom and respect and above all else love.  These are all also things we need.

Written By Victoria Aguila.

For more from Victoria Aguila, please visit http://faithhopeandtreasures.blogspot.com/
 
 

They Are Listening

13 Mar 2014, Posted by admin in Weekly Encouragement

I would like to share a few words of encouragement with mothers who think that the words they share with their children, who may not be walking with the Lord yet, are falling by the wayside. I’ve been guilty of believing that the words I shared with my son were falling to the ground because I was looking at his actions. Until one day God showed me otherwise.

My daughter has had an illness for about six years. As a mother, you just want to fix everything. I prayed, gathered information about the illness, and waited for an answer. All the while I was very frustrated because I could not fix the problem. I would pray and leave it in the Lord’s hands, then go right back and pick it up again. The vacillating began tobeach take a toll on me, but I could not see it.

One day, my son invited me to lunch. As we sat down we began to talk. He asked me how my daughter, his sister, was. All of a sudden I began to cry. With tears running down my cheeks, those words “how is she” seemed to cut deeply in my heart. I felt like someone who had been defeated because the enemy was right there to say: where is your God? Then my son said something that only the Holy Spirit could put in his mouth because he did not know how I felt. He said, “Mom, why are you carrying the burden? Are you not supposed to give it to Jesus? You always tell me to cast my burdens on Him because He cares for me? Then that is what YOU need to do.” Right there in that restaurant, God lifted my burden and I was freed from that heavy weight.

Today, not a lot has changed with my daughter’s condition, but the healing manifestation is on the way. In the meantime I am rejoicing in the Lord because I know that when we speak the word of God, His word makes an impact, even when we cannot see it. They are listening.
 
Written By Sheila Duran. If you would like to contact Sheila, you can reach her here.